I am a HUGE Dave Matthews Band fan. I’ve been to like 13 or 14 concerts. So, I was delighted when a dear friend wanted to go to one of their shows with me over Labor Day weekend. The venue was a beautiful, outdoor amphitheater in Eastern Washington named the Gorge, which is a 3’ish our drive from where I live. We planned to make a day of it by visiting some friends for lunch and wine tasting on our way to the concert. Excitement was high and we were stoked to have an amazing day …
We told our friends we’d leave at like 800-30’ish and meet them for lunch at 1130 or so. BUT, we got a late start and needed to get some coffee on the way, which put us behind. Halfway there and with a “good” ETA in mind, I updated our friends and said we’d be 15-30 minutes late. WHICH turned out to be a significant underestimate as traffic got worse and speeds slower. THEN, I realized I’d forgotten our tickets at home! DOH!! We debated going back for them and skipping the afternoon fun, but after searching on my phone and calling Live Nation, we got them to print tickets for us at will call.
Glad that was over, but STRESSED out that we were running increasingly late for our lunch date, I glanced to the right as we were talking. “Oh my gosh! They’re going to hit us!” I barked and pointed as a car proceeded to change lanes directly into US. The other driver seemed completely oblivious and I thought there was NO WAY we weren’t going to wreck as my adrenaline shot through the roof. Thankfully, my friend expertly hit the brakes and veered as far to the left as she could (there was a median).
Crisis averted, we made our way into town and met up with our gracious friends. More on that later, but first a bit more on how this day and trip COULD be named TERRIBLE. I’ve been wanting to get a Dave Matthew’s Fire Dancer t-shirt for years. So, as soon as we got in I found a merchandise table and got in line for a shirt (which was proudly displayed with the other gear). 30’ish minutes later I got to the front of the line … only to be told they didn’t have anything that would fit me! GRRR.
Finally (there’s more, but I’ll stop here), I’ve been to the Gorge several times, and “thought” I had a good understanding of the layout of restrooms and such. At a short break I went to “quickly” hit a bathroom and grab some fries. I walked almost literally around the WHOLE compound to find a set of toilets, as they weren’t where I remembered. Mission partially accomplished, I got in a short line to get fries … only to be told it was cash only, which I didn’t have. DOH! And by the time I got back to the area I thought our seats were at (we were on the lawn), it was dark and I couldn’t tell for sure where my friend was (my vision isn’t great). So stood there awkwardly looking and looking, until I texted her and then had to awkwardly wait for her to come find me.
Hopefully, as you can tell there was ample evidence for me to name this the WORST TRIP EVER and a TERRIBLE DAY. YET, I’d actually call it one of the BEST TRIPS EVER and one of my FAVORITE DAYS. As it applies to you and I on a daily basis, I say this because there’s pretty much ALWAYS both lots of things to be upset/irritated about in our days, AND tons of things to be grateful for and rejoice over. The CHOICE of which to name most true and real is yours. Nearly always you get to literally choose if today will be great or terrible.
With that in mind, now consider some of the positives of our Dave Matthews Band trip. My dear friend and I had an incredible conversation about life, love, family, God, wine, yoga, and more during our car rides. There was SO MUCH connection it was ridiculous! Words can’t even describe, but I’m guessing you know what I’m talking about. It was one of those effortless conversations where you easily flow back and forth, laugh, cry, get deep, get silly, sing loudly with the radio, and more.
Further, our friends were INCREDIBLY gracious and understanding of our tardiness. THEN, we had a fantastic time catching up with them at a yummy sandwich place. After that, they took us to a few local wine tasting rooms, where we had more great conversation and some really amazing wines. I umm really like wine and the wine was SO GOOD … and that said the PEOPLE were even BETTER!
Then came the Dave concert, which can be summarized by WOW! They have like 350+ songs in their repertoire (or so google tells me :), YET that night they played like 7 of my top 10 favorite songs! AND they had a few new and sweet jams they mixed into other songs! AND my friend and I had a BLAST dancing and singing our hearts out!
So, just like you and I get to do on a daily basis, I got to make a choice. Was I going to name it a great day or a terrible one? I choose great. BUT, here’s the thing. It’s work to name, enjoy, and savor goodness. A neuroscientist told Father Richard Rohr (and showed him the proof) that negative thoughts and experiences are like sticky glue, as soon as we have them they latch into our minds and quickly/easily become the defining characteristic of that experience. Conversely, positive thoughts and experiences slide off of us like teflon. They slide out of our brains unless we literally ponder and savor them for 15’ish seconds or more.
With that in mind, it is my hope that each of us choose to make and name today great. I pray we savor the goodness, kindness, and love that is ALWAYS there when we have eyes to see and experience it.
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Grace and peace,
Lang